Lijianjun

I have a hunch that this time I will probably play the role of angry youth in the air.

I don't know when "helping others" has changed from a commendatory word to a neutral word or even a derogatory word with the meaning of ridicule and ridicule. At this time in the past, I instinctively would strongly attack and oppose those who hold such a view, because I believe in moral justice and traditional virtues in the world, and the things they encounter are only very specific and special circumstances. It would be a bit too much to think about what people are doing now because of the emergence of these problems. To rise to the height of philosophy is to generalize and not distinguish the mainstream from the tributary, "Only trees, not forests"

But later, I was surprised to find that my thinking and understanding were changing imperceptibly. From my work to now, I have encountered some things in this regard, and the final result really makes me helpless. In particular, recently, I have been exposed to social events from all aspects, which have made me feel more strongly: on November 26, 2009, the report that "the old lady selling bean cakes in Huai'an, Jiangsu Province was accused of losing 8200 yuan and calling the police to lose 4200 yuan" was reported, and on the same day, the Guangzhou Daily reported that "the person who lost the money said 10000 yuan, and the person who picked up the money said 5000 yuan" and the Chongqing Evening News reported that "the low-income insured found the money, and the owner suspected that he had hidden half of it" On December 2, it was reported that in Baixia District, Nanjing, Jiangsu, "the car owner picked up the fallen old lady and was accused of hitting people and kneeling down to ask passers-by to prove that they had been touched by porcelain", as well as the Peng Yu case, which also occurred in Gulou District, Nanjing in 2006. A series of cases with roughly the same process and similar results broke out in a concentrated way (there may have been cases long ago, but we just didn't notice them). Living examples were put in front of us, and they all tortured our inner soul and social conscience time and again. What is the matter?!

Calm down and think about it. There are many reasons, but they certainly include but are not limited to the following aspects:

The first is personal quality. In two aspects, one is that the beneficiary is eager to find a person to bear the responsibility, and cannot find the perpetrator because his own behavior is damaged or others cause his own damage. At this time, the appearance of the benefactor brightens the eyes of the victim, as if he had grasped the straw, and imposed the loss caused by himself or others on the benefactor; The other is that the perpetrator plays the role of "savior" and pretends to rescue after the perpetrator has committed an act of victimization, resulting in disputes.

The second is the social mechanism. That is to say, the society has not given social evaluation and necessary protection to the benefactor, which is consistent with his behavior. On the contrary, the benefactor often has worries when helping others. If there are disputes in this process, no specific government departments as supporters come forward to solve them; Instead, the solution to the problem is often through the benefactor's own private relief behavior, such as pleading for witnesses to testify, and the result is to make the benefactor sad or disappointed.

Thirdly, the public opinion guidance of news media. Today's news media, for various purposes, hype and report some good people and good deeds. The result is that it seems that there are only oneortwo good deeds in today's society, which makes the public have strong doubts about the overall situation of the current social morality and leads to new and uncertain factors of social instability. As everyone knows, there are thousands of such things happening in a day, but they just don't appear in the newspapers. Originally, doing good deeds is to realize one's own world outlook, outlook on life and values. Why force others to know? The news media must strengthen their social responsibility in this regard. It is necessary to publicize and encourage them, but they must pay attention to a certain degree. This is the reason why things will turn against each other when they reach the extreme.

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I believe that if you list them from the perspective of different people, you will definitely come up with other reasons, but this is not the most important. The question is how to improve the current worrying situation. It is absolutely necessary to strengthen the cultivation of personal quality, improve the supervision and support functions of government agencies for public morality education, and optimize the social responsibility consciousness shouldered by the news media. Assistance in other aspects also needs to be followed up. Only when all parties work together can we change the current social situation and enable people to help others with a sincere smile and without any concern when they encounter difficulties.

The above few words represent my personal opinion. Start from yourself, start from bit by bit, and work hard, friends! Finally, the article ends with Gu Cheng's poem, "the night has given me black eyes, but I use it to look for light."

(in addition, I saw a news a few days ago that the two sides reached a settlement agreement in the case of old lady doubing picking up money, and the plaintiff withdrew the lawsuit and made an apology, which also seemed to restore the truth of the incident to the greatest extent; a series of words and deeds of the old lady also attracted great attention from the society, and a boss in Beijing donated 8000 yuan to the old lady to show encouragement and sympathy. I was very pleased.)